“Lavender Blue” my daughter murmurs, eyes closed, her breath lengthening towards sleep. I start singing and without opening her eyes I hear her softly add, “It never gets old.” I’m not sure if she’s sharing this reflection with me or just to herself but no matter, I know what she means and I smile and continue singing. How many times have I sang Lavender Blue? Many. Oh yes, so many times. I know she will not always feel like this about me singing this song to her and I cherish this moment – my son who is 10 groans before I get through the first line – he used to love it too. When I sing this song I feel my self enter more deeply into my body, the vibration of my voice dropping me gently into the moment. This lullaby has soothed me when my nervous system has felt frayed/spent – the melody knits me deeply back together --- it mothers me …. has been a resource for me to draw on.
What song warms you so you feel yourself fully here – embodied, calm, bathed in a quiet joy? Singing is such a great habit to bring into our lives as mothers – its rhythmic quality nourishes and supports the growing child and ourselves. Many moms who can’t find the time or desire to do a sitting practice of daily connection like meditation benefit greatly from bringing singing into their homes.
Singing has some similarities to meditation that are worth noting: the breath – a longer exhale moves us out of the fight – flight wing of the nervous system into rest and digest and calm. Singing often has our exhale be longer. Also, we are focusing on our breath and the moment. Ahhhh. (-: Bingo, another lucky winner. Lastly, if you’re singing songs you enjoy (which I would highly recommend you stick to) you’re tapping into appreciation and joy.
“But I can’t si…” stop …don’t say it. It’s just not true. We can all sing and our kids are the best audience to encourage us to open up that throat chakra and express ourselves …the more you do it the better it feels and the more range of notes you can play with.