“Lavender Blue” my daughter murmurs, eyes closed, her breath lengthening towards sleep. I start singing and without opening her eyes I hear her softly add, “It never gets old.” I’m not sure if she’s sharing this reflection with me or just to herself but no matter, I know what she means and I smile and continue singing. How many times have I sang Lavender Blue? Many. Oh yes, so many times. I know she will not always feel like this about me singing this song to her and I cherish this moment – my son who is 10 groans before I get through the first line – he used to love it too. When I sing this song I feel myself enter more deeply into my body, the vibration of my voice dropping me gently into the moment. This lullaby has soothed me when my nervous system has felt frayed/spent – the melody knits me deeply back together --- it mothers me …. has been a resource for me to draw on.
What song warms you so you feel yourself fully here – embodied, calm, bathed in a quiet joy? Singing is such a great habit to bring into our lives as mothers – its rhythmic quality nourishes and supports the growing child and ourselves. Many moms who can’t find the time or desire to do a sitting practice of daily connection like meditation benefit greatly from bringing singing into their homes.
Singing has some similarities to meditation that are worth noting: the breath – a longer exhale moves us out of the fight – flight wing of the nervous system into rest and digest and calm. Singing often has our exhale be longer. Also, we are focusing on our breath and the moment. Ahhhh. (-: Bingo, another lucky winner. Lastly, if you’re singing songs you enjoy (which I would highly recommend you stick to) you’re tapping into appreciation, delight and joy.
“But I can’t si…” stop …don’t say it. It’s just not true. We can all sing and our kids are the best audience to encourage us to open up that throat chakra and express ourselves …the more you do it the better it feels and the more range of notes you can play with. To the magic of you! xo Dr. Monika
Would you love support with this? I would love to help you! This is a part of the lifestyle piece of mothering resourced - i.e. finding things to do together that nourish you and your child at the same time.
Twice a year I host a Nourished Mama Project class on lullabies and some mantras that have been game changing for moms and children in the peace, joy and connection department. Join the Facebook group ‘Mindful Mama Connection’ to be kept in the loop of those or email me if you have a group of moms who are keen. Also, if you feel quite blocked/tight in the throat area or have any physical throat issues like chronic sore throats or thyroid issues and would like to experience more freedom and health and less stuckness there book into the office for a yoga therapy session where we can create the conditions for healing to happen. (403) 609-8385. I address symptoms physically as well as at the root level so you can have more freedom, connection and joy in your life and express yourself with ease!
“Thank you Dr. Monika for helping me find my voice. “ M.G. Canmore , AB